“Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” -Unknown
I can remember reciting this phrase as a little child. I used to say it when these kids would pick on me and call me names. I remember when my mom first said it to me and told me to remember that. As I got older, I would still remember this phrase. Then one day, that phrase became very unworthy. I could remember the hurtful words cutting deep into my mind, making me cry and feel so horrible inside. “Hmmm, why would these words hurt after so many years of saying that words could never hurt me.” I asked myself this over and over.
I developed an offspring of this phrase. “Sticks and stones may break my bones and words can hurt me.” I realized then that a lot of times, people say mean things or hurtful things and for some people, it will not ever hurt them, or they will never let it bother them. Maybe, this is because they in turn decided to use words to hurt someone else. Or, maybe not.
I ran across an article on the Psychology Today website about verbal abuse. It uses the famous sticks and stones phrase as the title but rephrases the end part to say that words can cut deeply. You can read the article here. It is a good article.
With verbal expression on the lose ends these days, words can actually kill. Look at all of the kids, teens, adults who have committed suicide or have died because of the words spoken by someone else to them. Bullying, Racial profiling, Name calling, Mental stigmatizing…………it all affects people in different ways.
We as parents, have to do all we can to teach our children about the words they speak and in turn watch the words that we chose when speaking to our kids. We as wives, have to be careful of the words we speak to our husbands and should be able to let our husbands know when words that they are speaking are harsh and hurtful. We as people, should always want to speak uplifting words because we just never know how it affects those who are receiving them.